“Does this path have a heart?
If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use..”


-Carlos Castaneda

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    Falling in love (part 1)

    If you want to fall in love with someone (or just like them more) –
    Do things for them.
    The kind of things that excite you, stretch you, and scare you just a bit. The kind of things that require at least a little of your attention everyday. The kind of things that you really do because they ma […]

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    Flying High – First Class Relationships

    Jihad and I just landed here in Taipei, and are waiting in the lounge for our flight to Bali.
    I decided on way over that relationships are like flying.
    Once you experience first/business class, the thought of flying coach just doesn’t sound like as much fun. It’s fine for quick trips. But for l […]

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    Hello there, what are you providing me?

    Some of you may know, I’ve taken up boxing.
    It’s one of my favorite things to do these days.
    I love it because its a great workout, and because I get to wake up early and move my body in ways I don’t usually. And, everyone at the gym is friendly. But mostly I love it because I have so much fun […]

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    Choosing to say “I love you. Thank you for being.”

    The text I received two nights ago from across the oceans read as follows:
    “I met you for the first time 16 years and 5 months ago…unbelievable what one chance meeting can mean in one’s life. I adore you and love that I chose to meet you even when I didn’t want to be there.”
    By “there […]

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    Yesterday morning, I was planning to hang out with a friend. I was in San Francisco, close to where she lives, and we were going to grab a cup of tea or light bite together before I began my drive back home to LA.
    Our last text exchange had left the details of our get-together up in the air – […]

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    Sometimes, when life pulls the rug out from underneath you, it is time to go on a magic carpet ride

    A year ago today, my life as I knew it came to a screeching halt. Well, more like a painful, hobbling slow-down.
    I pulled my groin muscle. While doing a fan-kick on a pole.
    Yes, a pole. As in pole dancing.
    And while I would love to share some titillating story about what I was up to, the truth is t […]

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    This morning, my girlfriend and I were scheduled to go for a sunrise hike. Yesterday, she cancelled on me.
    I felt ‘irritated’ – the nice way of saying angry.
    Now my anger was not ‘rational’.
    She’s extremely busy at work, her grandmother is very sick and she’s starting her o […]

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    The best way to say thank you

    A couple of weeks ago, I was on a camping trip with a bunch of people.
    As I was traipsing along on one of our hiking excursions, an amazing idea hit me! I knew exactly what I wanted to do, who I wanted to do it with and exactly how I wanted to do it. Only problem was I didn’t know how to get start […]

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    Luanda Living

    Yesterday, I woke up at 4 am in a minor panic – wondering if my man was ok.
    He was on his way from London to Luanda, Angola, via Addis Ababa, Ethiopia.
    This may sound like a crazy itinerary, but its par for the course around here.
    I knew he had made it to Ethiopia but I hadn’t received the u […]

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    The coldest place to be is half-way in

    This morning I found myself standing thigh-high in the ocean. The sky was cloudy and drizzly but the water was warm, and I had not been able to resist getting my feet wet on my morning walk.
    This is a recent fixation of mine, so I had come prepared, bathing suit under running shorts.
    I had been stan […]